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TRACEE ELLIS ROSS is SUPER COOL

Inner Goddess, Mindful MediaKate WeinerComment

If I can make space for holding the good and the bad at the same time, then it's all good. Sometimes I'm awesome and sometimes I'm crappy. I definitely wake up every morning trying to do my best, but how can I love myself no matter which way things go? How can I feel worthy of love no matter which version of me I am?

 

Sometimes, the boost you need to get through a rough patch is right under your bed. Literally. Last week, while poring through an old copy of Darling, I stumbled upon an interview with Tracee Ellis Ross that I'd overlooked before. I've since reread that interview a hundred and one times because Tracee's words are golden. Read below for the excerpt that has revitalized my approach to self-compassion. And check out Tracee's incredible body of work in film and fashion: she's got style, humor, and moxie.

SD: What was the last thing that surprised you about yourself?

TER: Unfortunately, there are times when my mind has already figured out that it's time for me to move on, but my body and heart are not ready. It's surprising every time it happens. It bothers me. I really wish I grew faster than I grow. I'm a person that has to gather information. But it genuinely surprises me every time, and every time I think to myself [sighs deeply] "Why are you still here?" And I have to remind myself that things take time and sometimes I have to go as slow as the slowest parts of myself. Ultimately, I think I'm my best when I leave space for my worst, when I'm not afraid to actually be where I am. As soon as I give myself the freedom to mess up, I don't. When I'm afraid and terrified to mess up, I do. They say that fear is excitement without breath. To me, breath is space. If I can make space for holding the good and the bad at the same time, then it's all good. Sometimes I'm awesome and sometimes I'm crappy. I definitely wake up every morning trying to do my best, but how can I love myself no matter which way things go? How can I feel worthy of love no matter which version of me I am?